In some ways, preparing for an adopted baby is the same as preparing for a biological baby. In other ways, it is different. Read on for some practical suggestions about how adoptive parents can prepare for welcoming a new family addition.
Inquire About Life So Far
Unless a baby is adopted at birth, he or she already has life experiences that may impact the transition to the adoptive home. Adoptive parents can ready themselves somewhat for what to expect by finding out what kinds of routines were in place at the previous care site. Previous caregivers are a wealth of information about baby preferences and all necessary information.
Acknowledge That Bonding Takes Time
While it is easier said than done, try to acknowledge that bonding take time and that developing a trusting relationship with the new baby will most likely be a slow process. Try not to take it personally if the baby cries when leaving the previous caregiver. Respond quickly to baby needs and spend plenty of time holding and feeding the baby, allowing love and trust to grow. Although extended family and friends may be excited to meet the baby, try to protect most of the initial time together as a household and new family unit.
Prepare Other Family Members
If there are existing siblings or even furry family members, take time to prepare them for the upcoming entrance of a new baby. Some companies, like A Child’s Dream, know that allowing older siblings to help prepare the nursery and to assemble the diaper bag can help get them used to the new family member. Talk about the importance of their upcoming roles. Allow any pets to smell an article of the baby’s clothing before fully introducing them. Be sure to continue giving lots of love to existing siblings and any household pets after the arrival of baby.
Find a Pediatrician
Call around ahead of time and locate a pediatrician who is in network with your insurance and who has openings for new babies. If you are not sure who to choose, check with friends and family members and take word of mouth recommendations. Online reviews are often available as well.
Adoption is a beautiful but sometimes complex process. Prioritize the important role this new person has in your life both before and after arrival. In addition to increasing the love and joy in your life, this new little person also ups the need to act responsibly and preemptively. Fully embrace the role as both protector and nurturer for this special and sweet baby boy or girl.
