If you have more than one child, then they may share a room in a small apartment or a home, but there is a time when children need to have their own space. Here is what experts say are the signs that it is time for a child to have his or her own bedroom.
Your Children Need to Go to Sleep and Wake Up at Different Times
As your children get older, one may need to wake up earlier than another one to go to school. A younger child may need to go to bed several hours before a teenager does. Sharing a bedroom can make it difficult for children to wake up and go to sleep at the proper times. This problem can lead to poor sleep quality along with having poor grades in school, so it is time to move to a home that has additional bedrooms.
Boys and Girls Are Sharing the Same Bedroom
It is okay for babies and toddlers to share a bedroom, but older boys and girls should have a separate bedroom. If you rent an apartment, then your landlord may stipulate that girls and boys sleep in a different bedroom at a certain age. Privacy is one of the major reasons for this reason for having separate bedroom for each child. You know your kids and their own comfort levels. However, when puberty hits and kids start menstruating and growing privacy is a very welcome asset. This can help better their moods and lower feelings of shame that shouldn’t come with the natural changes that are occurring to their bodies. Kids should be able to feel welcome changing, undressing, and getting ready in their own rooms so they can grow up with a healthy sense of self awareness.
The Children’s Bedroom Is Filled with Too Much Stuff
When you notice that the children’s bedroom is filled with too much stuff, you know that it is time to look at larger single-family homes in a neighborhood where you want to live. Sure, you can always declutter excess of toys. However, as children grow so do their clothes and the room it takes. If you are always complaining about how their rooms are messy then maybe they need enough space to organize their clothes, toys, and shoes. When children have a sense of ownership and privacy it’s a lot easier to help them grow a sense of responsibility. Having their own room will help them put away their own clothes. Put their own dirty clothes in their hamper. This is when they start learning to take care of their belongings so they can develop these habits into young adulthood and later. It’s hard to have a sense of accountability when someone else shares the blame. It’s even harder when there isn’t a organizational system for everything to have its own space.
When your children become teenagers, they will likely want to have more privacy away from any younger siblings. With a separate bedroom, your child can express her or his personality by decorating the space. This is also a great time for you to teach more about responsibility by telling your child that he or she must keep the bedroom clean and organized.
Many teenagers are busy with school, grades, extra-curricular activities and a job. This can lead to real burnout. Having a place that they can escape to and relax can help with mental health. Not only that, but if you keep telling them that performance is important to prepare for college then they should be able to have a place to study and sleep without distractions.
Helping a Child to Overcome Stress
Your child may feel a lot of stress after a difficult day at school, but if your son or daughter can relax in a separate bedroom, then it will make him or her feel better. A child can come home from school and shut the door in a bedroom to think, nap or study without any intrusions from a sibling.
Last, if you have children who are arguing all of the time and unhappy in each other’s company, then by making sure that they have separate bedrooms, you can have a peaceful home again.