For any struggling mom, the word “pamper” might as well be written on Blorgon because who has time for that, right? Well, we’re here to tell you that you need to make time for that. Why? Because besides being fun, it actually has a lot of benefits that were convincing enough for us to write a whole article about.
See, pampering yourself can:
1. Improve Mental Health
First of all, a healthy mind is, for the most part, what makes a mother the legendary goddess she is. Anxiety, depression, stress, and negative emotions take a huge toll on the way we act as mothers. For this specific reason, mental health experts usually advise that we take to tend to ourselves rather than let the pressure of motherhood deplete us. Don’t worry, it’s not selfish of you. When you take the time to relieve your own stress and manage your anxieties, you’ll be in a clear enough headspace to give your kids all the love they deserve. Not to mention, kids are extremely sensitive to their parents’ moods and behaviors. So, the happier and more relaxed you become, the better their moods will be, and the less likely it will be for them to develop mood disorders and anxieties.
2. Get you in Physical Shape
Needless to say, pampering yourself; even with the smallest of things, can help a lot in improving your physical health. Often as moms, we exert too much effort in taking care of our kids that we completely overlook our health. We lose sleep, skip meals, overeat at night, and end up with a million health issues. From black circles under your eyes to stress-induced heart diseases, there’s no limit to what overexertion can do. This is why it is important to pamper yourself regularly; go to a spa, get that Botox treatment you’ve always wanted, work on your summer body– whether that means getting specialized treatment or exercise, eat and sleep well. In doing so, you won’t be neglecting your motherly duties. On the contrary, you’ll be physically healthy enough to take care of your little ones for long periods of time, and without getting winded down.
3. Rejuvenate Your Energy
Aside from physical health, pampering yourself can give you a huge energy boost. If you’re thinking that physical health is the same as energy then, you’re quite mistaken; even athletes feel too tired to workout sometimes. What pampering does is that relaxes you, and rids you from all the stress and pressure. If you usually get that headache that makes you feel like your mind has hit a wall, you’ll understand what we’re talking about. Keep in mind that pampering is different from the quick thirty minutes you get on your phone. Pampering is when you sit down with an adult beverage, a piece of cake and your favorite show or book. This type of self-care is considered a recovery period for your mind; a period where it heals and rejuvenates itself. After such period, you’ll find that you are more tolerant to whatever dumb stunts kids try to pull off; and we know they’re more than capable of doing a lot.
4. Shape your Personality
Last but not least, pampering yourself means spending quality time alone with yourself; remember her? Well, the more you get to know her; the more you know yourself, the more you’ll be able to identify your weaknesses and strengths as an individual, a wife, and a mother. Once you do that, you’ll instantly find that you’ve become stronger, more decisive and more in control. You won’t get angered easily, and you won’t feel scared or unsure about letting your kids do some activities. For example, some mothers tend to inherit illogical fears from their parents and pass those onto their kids. The only way to beat that is by deep self-exploration, and reflection, which you only get by spending time alone with them.
So, as you can see, pampering is not such a bad thing after all. Of course we understand that the society has always conditioned mothers to be completely and ultimately devoted to their families. While it will take quite a while to break that misconception, you must try your best. Now, we’re not saying don’t be devoted to your family. What we mean is that you shouldn’t do so at your own expense to an extreme extent. Give a 100% effort to your kids, but, recognize when you need a break and don’t feel guilty about taking a vacation every once in a while.