Marriage is a serious life-changing event and shouldn’t be done out of convenience or financial gain… it should be done because you love the person you’re dating. It can be scary deciding whether or not your boyfriend is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with because you know that it will no longer just be about you. This fear isn’t necessarily coming from a selfish place but more so just trying to make sure within yourself that he’s the one.
Yes, you’ll have to give up some of your selfish ways and habits but isn’t it worth it once you realize you’ve dated all the frogs and finally ran into your prince charming? And for some, your prince “not-so-charming”? Who you’ve dated in the past doesn’t matter, the important thing is that you’ve found the guy who makes you happy and is committed to you.
How Do You Know You’ve Found “The One?”
So, you made the decision that your guy is “the guy” but have you ever sat back and thought about how you knew that he was the one? There surely wasn’t a shooting star that fell from the sky and landed on his head to let you know he was the one… Of course not… If you’re dating a man, he more than likely has ways about him very similar to other guys; what that means is that your man probably did certain things and displayed certain emotions that let you know he has intentions on marrying you throughout the course of dating him.
When you’re dating someone, especially when you first start dating someone, it may not be clear as to what his intentions are because you both are so new to each other and you don’t want to ask too many questions and run him off. But once you hit a certain point in your relationship, you should know what his intentions are for you. As women, we’re so quick to ask guys the number one question that runs them off… “what are we doing?” or “where is this going?”
You may have those questions in the forefront of your mind in the beginning but once you reach a certain part in your courtship, you will no longer wonder where the relationship is going because he will have shown you his intention is to marry you in so many ways. Some guys will not only show you that he wants to marry you but a lot of them will actually tell you that they’re going to marry you… if that’s not confirmation enough, nothing is.
If you’re dating someone and unsure of where it’s going but not ready to him that question yet, pay attention to his actions, words, and gestures… they’re a dead giveaway that he intends to marry you. Look for these signs.
Sign 1: He Brags About You to EVERYONE
Not only will he talk about you to everyone, but he’ll also talk about you to anyone who will listen! His friends, family, coworkers, the lady standing in line behind him at the grocery store… the point is, everyone he knows (and doesn’t know) and the people he cares about, knows your name. Why does your man do that? Because he thinks you’re smart, gorgeous, and you mean the world to him and he wants the world to know it.
Sign 2: He’s Willing to Try New Things With You
A man that’s open to trying new things with you means that he’s open to change. The guy you met when you first started dating might have been a man who’s diet consisted of hot wings, pizza, and football… he still eats those foods but salads, asparagus, and vegetable soups are now in his repertoire too! The fact that he was even willing to try those foods for you says a lot because men are not going to do anything they don’t want to do, and if he’s open to making the change to incorporate vegetables in his diet, just imagine the changes and sacrifices he’s willing to make in your marriage.
Eharmony states that when you first start dating someone, you have to enter the relationship with an open mind and heart. People have dating checklists with very little wiggle room and when you go by that checklist, you could be setting up a potentially great relationship up for failure before it can even get started.
Sign 3: You’ve Had Conversations About Getting Married
This sign is a big one. Marriage is the ultimate form of commitment so if he’s been able to have conversations with you about it and not pull a disappearing act, then he’s definitely in it for the long haul. Conversations about marriage can be a wide range of things.
You could be discussing whether or not to have a summer garden wedding or if you want to elope in Vegas and just have a really nice reception at home for your close friends and family. Some men have even not closed their web browsers, leaving the website up where they were secretly trying to browse engagement rings… Whether it’s a conversation or the fact that they slipped up web surfing, any type of wedding talk is a sure-fire sign he wants to marry you… it may not be in a couple of months or next year but just know it’s on his mind.
Sign 4: He Loves You Despite Your Crazy and Irrational Moments
Nobody’s perfect, right? Right. You may have days where you’re on edge and every little thing he does annoys you to a point that forces you to be a total you know what. Is it justifiable for you to be that way towards him? Sometimes it is and sometimes it isn’t but hey, he has moments where you drive him up the wall too but he sticks around anyway. Why? Because you understand each other and wouldn’t trade each other’s “crazy” for anything in the world.