Years ago, families lived together for generations, caring for both the youngest and oldest together in their homes. As people began living longer and retirement homes sprang up, a generational separation occurred. Children today still can and should respect their elders. Here’s how you can help cultivate that with your children.
Demonstrate, Practice, Reassure
Children won’t be fooled. If they see you practicing common curtsy towards your fellow man, they will see that respect is important. Your example is powerful. Look people in the eye; hold the door open for them; explain to your children why you are doing this. Teaching even young children that what their actions and words matter is a key part of teaching respect for their elders. Practice looking each other in the eye with your children so it becomes a habit. Don’t underestimate the importance of reminding them to say “please” and “thank you”. Practice listening when adults speak to them and help them respond appropriately. Children, especially the very young, may need reassurance that elderly or unfamiliar people are kind and happy to see them, even adults they have seen multiple times. Reassure your young child that Mr. Smith is a friend of yours, or that Miss Jones is an aunt, and that you have known them a long time. Be patient with your child, since shyness is not a sign of disrespect, but of uncertainty. Gently leading by example and practicing common curtesy with your children will eventually help them to feel confident enough to follow in your footsteps. Scolding or belittling your child will not encourage respect.
Seek Opportunities
You can seek out older people to build relationships with, especially if your family is not often around older people. Many retirees and nursing home residents spending their golden years in Georgia would gladly welcome spending time with families with young children. These individuals are sometimes lonely. By fostering such intergenerational relationships, you are showing your children that people of all ages and walks of life have much in common and can be friends. You can also talk about some questions your child could ask an older person. Give the child appropriate ways to interact with them, reminding them that their words and actions are important too and can make someone’s day brighter.
Demonstrating and practicing respectful behavior will help prepare your children for respectful interactions with their elders. Remember, being consistent and patient in the small things is key to raising respectful individuals.
